11-16-2009, 07:01 PM
Please consider for review "Opposites as Equals" by Richard Driscoll with Nancy Ann Davis
Equality in Christian Marriage
by
Richard Driscoll, PhD, with Nancy Ann Davis, PhD
Relationships in which men and women participate as approximate equals are found to be more satisfying and more stable. "Opposites as Equals" explores the surprising differences between men and women which confuse our ideals of equality and so intensify gender conflict.
Research finds that women are more comfortable in personal arguments and more insistent, while men are more highly stressed and tend to concede, placate, or withdraw. In addition, chivalrous sympathies tend to support women against offending men, while men are expected to take care of themselves.
In our modern quest for equality, patriarchy and the traditional Christian support for men have fallen out of favor. Yet patriarchal Christianity calls upon women to soften their superior emotional firepower and to listen to their husbands, so that men might have a place in families. The traditional Christian standard thus acts as a remedy for an emotional imbalance, promoting more egalitarian relationships, stabilizing marriages, and benefiting men, women, and children all about equally.
The authors are well aware of the secular tilt against men, but suggest that fatherhood is the proverbial goose that laid the golden egg. The tilt against fathers provides a few more rights and privileges for women but undermines men, and now undermines the traditional two-parent family.
The challenge to religious organizations is to integrate women into positions of authority without undermining the men, and to understand enough about men and women to manage the inevitable conflict and preserve a spirit of cooperation. "Opposites as Equals" provides a fresh look at the problem and suggests practical solutions.
"Opposites as Equals: Standard Differences between Men and Women—and How to Resolve Them"
Published by Westside Psychology, 2009. 220 pages. $14.95
Website: theOppositeSex.info
review copies at 8665 690-0962
Comments
"Carefully researched, well written, provocative, and often quite funny, this timely little volume is full of deep wisdom and practical insights not found elsewhere. Truly, a fascinating read!"
— Michael Dowd, author of Thank God for Evolution
"…a politically incorrect analysis of why men are bailing out of relationships and retreating into video games. If you are a man wondering why you aren't involved in a committed relationship, or a woman wondering where all the good men have gone, then you need to read this book. It explains the problem brilliantly."
— Helen Smith, PhD, author of The Scarred Heart and host at Pajamas TV
…a rare thing: an original, even superlative book on relationships and gender…. The author holds both sexes in the highest regard, sees their strengths and weaknesses, their similarities and differences, and earnestly wants each of us to make the very best out of our lives and our relationships."
— Steven Svoboda, for Transitions
Equality in Christian Marriage
by
Richard Driscoll, PhD, with Nancy Ann Davis, PhD
Relationships in which men and women participate as approximate equals are found to be more satisfying and more stable. "Opposites as Equals" explores the surprising differences between men and women which confuse our ideals of equality and so intensify gender conflict.
Research finds that women are more comfortable in personal arguments and more insistent, while men are more highly stressed and tend to concede, placate, or withdraw. In addition, chivalrous sympathies tend to support women against offending men, while men are expected to take care of themselves.
In our modern quest for equality, patriarchy and the traditional Christian support for men have fallen out of favor. Yet patriarchal Christianity calls upon women to soften their superior emotional firepower and to listen to their husbands, so that men might have a place in families. The traditional Christian standard thus acts as a remedy for an emotional imbalance, promoting more egalitarian relationships, stabilizing marriages, and benefiting men, women, and children all about equally.
The authors are well aware of the secular tilt against men, but suggest that fatherhood is the proverbial goose that laid the golden egg. The tilt against fathers provides a few more rights and privileges for women but undermines men, and now undermines the traditional two-parent family.
The challenge to religious organizations is to integrate women into positions of authority without undermining the men, and to understand enough about men and women to manage the inevitable conflict and preserve a spirit of cooperation. "Opposites as Equals" provides a fresh look at the problem and suggests practical solutions.
"Opposites as Equals: Standard Differences between Men and Women—and How to Resolve Them"
Published by Westside Psychology, 2009. 220 pages. $14.95
Website: theOppositeSex.info
review copies at 8665 690-0962
Comments
"Carefully researched, well written, provocative, and often quite funny, this timely little volume is full of deep wisdom and practical insights not found elsewhere. Truly, a fascinating read!"
— Michael Dowd, author of Thank God for Evolution
"…a politically incorrect analysis of why men are bailing out of relationships and retreating into video games. If you are a man wondering why you aren't involved in a committed relationship, or a woman wondering where all the good men have gone, then you need to read this book. It explains the problem brilliantly."
— Helen Smith, PhD, author of The Scarred Heart and host at Pajamas TV
…a rare thing: an original, even superlative book on relationships and gender…. The author holds both sexes in the highest regard, sees their strengths and weaknesses, their similarities and differences, and earnestly wants each of us to make the very best out of our lives and our relationships."
— Steven Svoboda, for Transitions